|how would you guys deal with having a gay roommate? My (boarding)…|
Aug. 19th, 2004 @ 12:48 am
how would you guys deal with having a gay roommate?
My (boarding) school has a bunch of rules against sex on campus, but they're pretty ineffective against gays.
As a gay kid living in a dorm, I've had absolutely no problems with my roommate--and he's had no problems with me.
Am I ridiculously fortunate? I have no idea how it is anywhere else, I guess. What do you guys think?
|Date:||August 28th, 2004 07:55 am (UTC)|| |
I go to a boarding School in the UK.
When I came out to my room-mate at first he was totally OK about it. However, when I started to tell other people he started to get all hostile. He said that he wished that I had told him before we chose to share a room and stuff like that. People in my House at school (imagine Hogwarts if you are unsure what I mean by House) in my Yeargroup are still the most Hostile to me. Everyone else is pretty much Ok.
So some people really dont like the idea of sharing a room with a gay guy.
i had a gay roommate. he is a good friend to this day. i found myself defending him when i heard people talking behind his back. some people however are rather insecure when it comes to labels like 'homosexual'. call it homophobia. judge the person based on who they are, not by their sexual orientation. so yes, i would say you are fortunate to have an open minded roommate =D
|Date:||September 11th, 2004 05:26 am (UTC)|| |
I was openly gay and an RA in my astonishingly conservative college in Utah. I had no problems. In fact, some of my hallmates would even ask for fashion advice before a date. So. I think it really all depends on how you (individually) handle it. If you treat your sexuality like an oddity and you flash it around for a sensational response, that's probably what you're going to get. But if you're like "who gives a shit" then no one really bothers you. Just my experience. Homophobs are kinda irrational and not really predictable, so you kinda have to spot them early on and try to avoid them.
I'm gay, and I've been pretty lucky with my roomate situation so far. As of yet, I've had three, two of which were gay as well. Thought the one straight roomate I did have liked to say things behind my back to his friends, which really didn't bother me all that much (well it did, but it could've been alot worse).
I'm also that way, but I live off campus with my parents. And no, it's not just because of the orientation. It's because I've always been shy and asocial, but since now I have a job (had the same one for over a year and 4 months) I am getting better at being socialable and comforatable around other people.
I consider myself a strange psychopath, so people had BETTER NOT mess with me. That's all I'm saying.
Oh yeah...a long time ago, I remember listening to this late night radio talk show, and this one person called in and said he walking in one day on his gay roommate and found him sniffing his (the caller's) underwear, and the caller didn't know what to do.
Now THAT should not happen, because the gay roommate should respect other people's privacy and things if he expects to be respected in return.
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